Can you relate to Rochelle's story?Â
Some parents discipline their kids harshly,
not because they want to hurt them,
but because that’s how they were taught to survive growing up.
Other parents avoid discipline altogether,
not because they don’t care,
but because they still remember how painful “discipline” was for them as children.
Both behaviors come from the same root:
A child who grew up without emotional safety is now trying to parent without emotional tools.
No one wakes up thinking:
“I’m going to ruin my child’s day.”
or
“I want to be too lenient.”
People just repeat what they know.
And when those patterns go unexamined,
they show up as:
• Resentment
• Silent treatment
• Disconnection
• Disrespect
• Kids who stop listening
• Parents who stop trying
Rochelle, a single mom in our Proactive Parent Community, was in that cycle for years.
She wasn’t a bad parent.
She was an overwhelmed parent.
A tired parent.
A human parent.
It wasn’t until she learned her son’s personality
that everything changed.
She realized:
- When to speak.
- When to listen.
- When to discipline.
- When to connect.
- When his behavior meant “defiance”.
- And when it really meant “I’m scared” or “I don’t understand.”
Her home didn’t magically become perfect.
But their relationship got better.
More connection.
Less stress.
More peace in the home.
I recorded her story because I know a lot of parents will see themselves in it.
👉 [Listen to Rochelle’s story in this short video]
You’ll also hear from other parents, like Taney and Phylicea, who discovered the same thing:
You don’t have to repeat the past.
Your child isn’t your childhood.
And you’re not alone anymore.
Talk to you soon,
Devin Trent
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