The words that shaped my childhood (and why I’m on a mission now)
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My parents were born in the 1960’s-70’s.
Back then, nobody was talking about “emotional intelligence".
So when I was growing up, my parents didn’t know how to communicate effectively.
I heard things like:
- "Shut up!"
- "Get out of my face before I knock you through the wall!"
- "Go to your room, I don’t want to hear it!"
For years, those messages shaped the way I saw my parents and the way I saw myself. I struggled with low self-esteem and a poor self image all the way up into my adult years.
But through my accomplishments over time, I’ve been able to prove to myself that I am valuable, I am good enough, I am worthy. And I don’t have to carry the weight of other people’s negativity.
Not having this realization cost me years of trial and error and it could have cost me thousands of dollars in therapy, had I not done the healing work on my own.
I don’t have any hard feelings towards my parents but that doesn’t change the fact that we don’t have a close emotional bond.
- Shut up? Fine, I'll shut up and not talk to you.
- Get out of your face? Fine, I won't come spend time with you.
- You don't want to hear it? Fine, I don't have nothing to say.
That’s why I’m on a mission now.
Because I believe that proactive parenting is the ounce of prevention that saves a pound of regret.
Proactive parenting is dealing with issues while they’re small.
Reactive parenting is trying to fix things after they get out of hand and the damaged is already done.
Most parenting stress comes from not having a plan.
That's why I created The Proactive Parent Program.
To help parents have a plan of action when conflicts arise. So that you can build a stronger connection and have less stress with your child.
I'm not saying that it's a 100% guarantee, but I believe something is better than nothing.
It's better to drive in the rain, than to drive with your eyes closed.
When driving in the rain you have tools like windshield wipers to help you see.
But when you drive with your eyes closed, you're totally blind. And when the blind lead the blind, both fall into the ditch.
Parenting is the same way.
This program is a tool to help you "see", and prepare a plan of action, and possibly prevent, predictable parenting problems before the ever happen.
I recorded a short video where I go deeper into this mission, why our world has changed so much, and why parents can’t afford to rely on trial-and-error anymore.
👉 [Watch the Video Here]
I think it will really connect the dots for you.
Talk to you soon,
Devin Trent
(This email is part of The Proactive Parent Community)
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