It’s not you. It’s the missing plan.

By now you’ve learned two things most parents never hear.

Your child has a wiring.
And you have a wiring too.

When those two patterns don’t align, everyday moments become unpredictable.
Not because the child is “bad,” and not because the parent is “failing,” but because there’s no shared plan guiding the relationship.

This is the piece most parents are missing.

Let me explain.

Parenting feels confusing when you don’t understand the pattern

Without understanding wiring, every day feels like starting from scratch.

One day your child listens.
The next day they melt down.
One day they’re cooperative.
The next day you have to keep repeating yourself.

And no matter how many techniques you try, nothing works consistently.

It’s not because the techniques are bad.
It’s because techniques don’t replace understanding.

Parenting feels exhausting when you’re reacting instead of preparing

Most parents are constantly putting out fires:

• arguing
• repeating directions
• correcting behavior
• raising their voice
• trying to stay calm
• negotiating
• giving warnings
• guessing what their child needs

Reactive parenting is draining because it requires emotional energy in every single moment.

And it’s hard to meet your child’s needs when you don’t know which needs they actually have.

Parenting feels discouraging when you can’t see the pattern

The truth is, every behavior has a pattern behind it.
Every meltdown.
Every shutdown.
Every hesitation.
Every moment of resistance.

Behavior isn’t random.
It’s predictable once you understand your child’s wiring.

And when you see the pattern, the confusion disappears.

This is why proactive parenting matters

Proactive parenting isn’t about being perfect or strict.
It’s about having a plan that matches your child’s wiring so you’re not reacting all day.

Once parents learn their child’s temperament, they stop wasting energy on guesswork.
They start anticipating conflicts before they happen.
They stop taking reactions personally.
They start speaking in a language their child understands.

Parenting becomes easier.
Communication becomes smoother.
And the home becomes more peaceful.

Tomorrow, I’m going to give you the next step.
It’s the simplest and clearest way to finally understand your child’s wiring so you can create a parenting plan that actually works.

Talk to you soon,
Devin Trent