This explains parent-child misunderstandings

Yesterday I showed you the four ways children are wired.
Today we need to take the next step that most parenting books skip.

Your child has a wiring.
But so do you.

And your parenting style plays a massive role in how your child experiences your discipline, your tone, your rules, and your expectations.

Here are the four parenting patterns I teach.
Most parents lean toward one of them.

1. The Nurturer Parent

Warm, caring, deeply connected.
You lead with your heart.
You want to protect your child’s emotions and make sure they feel loved.
But you may avoid firm boundaries or struggle with consistency.

2. The Adventurer Parent

Flexible, spontaneous, easygoing.
You dislike rigid routines and prefer freedom.
You give your child room to explore and grow.
But structure can feel draining for you, which sometimes creates confusion for a child who needs predictability.

3. The Protector Parent

Responsible, structured, safety-focused.
You want clear rules and clear expectations.
You value order because it helps you create stability.
But a child with a more free-spirited temperament may feel controlled even when your intentions are loving.

4. The Strategist Parent

Logical, efficient, future-focused.
You like solving problems quickly and teaching your child to be capable.
But emotional children may feel like you are correcting them when you are actually trying to prepare them.

None of these styles are wrong.
They each bring strength.
They each bring blind spots.
And every parent has moments where their natural personality bumps against their child’s natural personality.

A sensitive child may shut down with a strategist parent.
An explorer child may feel restricted with a protector parent.
A dutiful child may feel lost with an adventurer parent.
An analytical child may feel misunderstood with a nurturer parent.

This is not failure.
This is wiring.

Once parents understand their own pattern and their child’s pattern, everything finally makes sense.

Tomorrow, I will show you a real story that illustrates exactly what happens when a parent’s natural wiring collides with their child’s wiring.
It's one of the most eye-opening moments for parents, because it reveals what's happening under the surface that nobody ever explains.

Talk to you soon,
Devin Trent