The real reason you get triggered

This email might hit a little deeper, but it’s important.

A lot of parents tell me:

“I don’t know why this small thing makes me so mad.”
or
“I don’t want to yell, but something in me snaps.”

Here’s the truth most people never hear:

Your childhood is still in the room when you parent.

Let me show you what I mean.

A mom once said how her son’s whining made her instantly angry.
Not annoyed, but angry.

As she talked more she remembered her past.

When she was young, crying got her criticized.
Showing emotion got her punished.
Being “soft” got her judged.

So now, when her child cries, her body hears:
“Danger. Weakness. Trouble.”

Her child wasn’t the problem.
Her past was.

We all carry our childhood patterns into adulthood:

• If you were yelled at, you may raise your voice without meaning to
• If you were ignored, shutdown kids trigger you
• If you were overly corrected, mistakes feel like “disrespect”
• If you lacked emotional safety, big feelings overwhelm you
• If you had no boundaries, clinginess exhausts you
• If you were told to “grow up,” regressions might frustrate you

Every trigger is a story.
Not about your child, but about the parts of you that still need healing.

But here’s the good news:

Awareness is the beginning of change.

Tomorrow I’m going to show you something powerful:

Why two kids raised in the same home can react COMPLETELY different to the same parent.

This insight will change everything.

Talk soon,
Devin Trent

Action step:

Take one moment today to notice your own reaction without judging yourself.